top ten questions about wedding invitations
1. When should I send out my Save the Dates?
Traditionally, Save the Date’s should be in the mail six to eight months prior to your wedding date. Closer to eight months (or longer) if you are planning a destination wedding, and your guests will need to find travel accommodations.
2. When should I send out my Wedding Invitations?
Your wedding invitations should be in the mail six to eight weeks prior to your wedding date. Again, if you’re planning a destination wedding, I would recommend sending them closer to twelve weeks ahead of time.
3. When should I require people to RSVP by?
I always make the RSVP by date one month (four weeks) prior to your wedding date so that you have plenty of time to get your final numbers to your caterer and finalize day-of details like place cards and seating charts. This also gives you time to call or email those guests that you haven’t heard from by the date required (this will happen to you!).
4. What information do I need to include on my Save the Dates?
The Save the Date’s purpose is to get your wedding date on your guest’s calendar and let them know what to expect from your wedding day. I recommend that you have your wedding website completed by the time your Save the Date’s are mailed, so that you can share hotel/travel recommendations, dress code, registry info, etc. without having to include it on the mailed piece. Less text on your Save the Date usually allows for higher design quality. Make sure to include:
Location (City Name/State, Venue Name is optional)
5. Where do I put my registry information?
It is now considered impolite to include your registry information directly on your wedding invitations. Wedding websites are a great place to include this information (with direct links to the registry) without being tacky — and there are a plethora of free tools out there to help you build this on your own for little to no budget.
6. What is the best way to let people know that kids are not allowed at the ceremony or reception?
Make sure to address your invitations to each guest by name, vs a general “The Ralls Family” to be clear. On your actual wedding invitations, you can also include a short and sweet sentence explaining that this is an adults only affair. This should be repeated on your website. My favorite way to include this is:
We respectfully ask that this be an adults only ceremony & reception.
7. Is it impolite to only give a “plus one” to some guests and not others?
Absolutely not! Your guest list should reflect you and your fiancé and you two alone (unless your parents are contributing to the budget — then of course take their opinion into consideration and be open to small compromises)! Follow your instincts when it comes to who you invite and who you allow to bring a guest. Your single friends and family will totally understand if you tell them that you are having a more intimate ceremony and reception — and most of them will understand that an invitation addressed to them without “and Guest” or another name included, means that it is a single invitation.
8. How do I tell my guests how to dress?
Your guests can generally gather a lot about what to expect from your wedding day by the style of invitation. If your invitations are more casual, and your wedding is outdoors in the summer, they will usually clue into the fact that it will also be a casual affair. If you opt for that third piece in your wedding invitation suite, called an enclosure or details card (separate from your main invitation and response card), this is a great place to just include in small print, “formal attire” etc., if you are requiring more formal dress. This information should again be repeated on your wedding website.
9. How much time should I allow when ordering custom wedding invitations?
I prefer two months to complete a custom wedding invitation suite, from finalizing your estimate to shipping off the final invitation suite. I am open to rush certain projects if my availability allows, and the production phase doesn’t require any extra time (no specialty printing or assembly).
10. How does the custom ordering process work?
Please visit the section How It Works on my website for a full explanation of the brainstorming, design and production phases of completing a custom invitation suite. If you have any questions at all, I am happy to set up a short consultation with you to discuss the process and what an estimate might include.